The chances are you have never planned a wedding before. You want everything to be perfect but there is so much information, so of it conflicting, it can become overwhelming and stressful.
How to keep your wedding planning stress free.
If you have the calm, cool vibe, we’re all a bit jealous. But just like the stress-filled balls of energy, we’re all looking to make wedding planning as stress-free as possible.
You may have your vision, but not every detail planned out. Or maybe you do. However, you know for sure you don’t want to go from hugs and love to fists flying and arguments because of wedding planning’s long running history of stressing everyone involved out.
Even with a wedding planner, you’re still very much involved up until the big day. We don’t take over. Relieving the stress and providing support throughout (at whatever level you require) is what we are here for.
Let’s take a look at some things to consider to keep your big day and the days leading up to it, as stress-free as possible.
Organisation is KEY.
Organisation is stress-free wedding planning’s secret. And it starts with identifying your budget. Seems like a no-brainer, but stomachs still churn when it’s time to talk finances. You need to have an in-depth conversation with your partner about a realistic budget for your big day; one you both can agree on with no questions asked, because you want to avoid extra stress caused by going over the budget (and those extra disagreements!)
Once your budget is set, identify your priorities. Make a list of your wedding must haves (venue, food, photography, dress, etc) versus your wedding wants (open bar, specialised stationary, higher end gifts for the wedding party, etc). Once your suppliers are secured and you’ve tackled all your wedding needs, any additional money in the budget can be allocated amongst the wants guilt-free. Alleviate the financial stress to keep planning what it’s supposed to be, light and fun.
Continue smooth planning with a solid system to keep things in place. Keep all of your important documents like supplier contracts in one place; whether that be a physical or digital binder. Make a folder for wedding emails as well. Consider Google docs for supplier lists, emergency contacts for those suppliers to avoid them bombarding you on the big day, your RSVP list, bridal party, etc.
Once your budget, priorities, and system are in place, stay organised with to do lists (weekly, bi-weekly, monthly) with realistic deadlines you can stick to. Group your tasks and break them up into bite size chunks so they’re a lot more digestible. It’s daunting looking at a five page to do list with a limited amount of time to get it all done. So, don’t. Break it down.
Your Well-Being Matters – Stay Stress-Free.
There are a few things you should do to keep your mental health in check and your health prioritised in the midst of wedding planning insanity. It starts with planning ahead. As far ahead as you can fathom. You might drive your partner a little crazy with deadlines but getting wedding deadlines in place will kill the procrastination bug. When you think you’ve thought of it all, a hundred more things pop up. And always right before the wedding. So lets not add to that list by putting off the things that you can conquer now.
Don’t be afraid to delegate. Wedding planning isn’t a one person show and will become stressful if you try to do it all on your own. Delegate those small tasks and get them off your plate so you can focus on those that require your attention. Consider hiring a wedding planner (I can help with that) or coordinator (I do this too). But hire help you trust.
Find a time each month to address any updates, questions, to do lists, decisions, and anything else to keep everyone on the same page. Communication is key in eliminating those surprises that will cause you undeserved stress.
Just before the wedding, strategically plan a couple of days off from work to address those last minute errands and tasks as well. You’ll be too distracted to work anyway a weekend or two before the wedding, so make it easier to yourself and designate those days to the wedding.
Don’t Let It Take Over.
Wedding Planning can easily take over your life if you allow it to. It’ll do your relationship good as well as your well-being to designate “no wedding talk” time each week. Maybe a day. Maybe as needed. But do it. Wedding planning can be overwhelming and stressful and rightfully so. You’re planning the biggest party of your life. However, your mental health matters and it’s so important to step away and regroup. That way you can come back with a fresh mind and new perspective.
Spend some much needed time together and just enjoy each other’s company. You don’t want every conversation to be about planning your wedding. So plan a date night or weekend away and don’t say a word about the wedding.
Remember, It’s Your Wedding.
Work as a couple to keep the steady stream of decisions at bay. Trust your instincts on small and large decisions and then move on. Don’t keep revisiting them between the two of you or letting everyone’s opinions rent a space in the decision making. You may wish to consider some of the suggestions and I’d agree you should. However, remember it’s your day so have what you want.
You can’t please everyone. Your Mum might hate the decor. A cousin might hate the flowers. One of your best friends might hate the venue. The bridesmaids might freak out about the dresses. But this is your wedding. Recite it out loud a few times. Stop obsessing over perfection. Grab your partners hand and remember what all of this is for.
You’re marrying the love of your life, nothing should come before that.
Want a Stress-Free Wedding?
If a stress-free wedding or wedding day are what you are looking for, have a look at my services and, if you like what you see, contact me today to see if your wedding date is available. Every couple is different, so every wedding I do is different. I work with you to create your inspiration, your vision.
I’m an award-winning wedding planner and a member of UKAWP so you are in safe hands. Client experience is my top priority.