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To be clear, this is the traditional roles and responsibilities. These days, it is normal to assign tasks and responsibilities as you see fit. Remember, it’s your wedding, your choice.

 

Today I’m talking about traditions – The roles and responsibilities of the key wedding party members. As I mentioned above, remember, it’s your wedding. You don’t need to assign roles as below or purchase outfits for the various people. This is just a view on what was traditional done. Don’t let anyone tell you how to run your wedding.

 

Maid of Honour / Chief Bridesmaid

Chosen by: Bride

Who ensure they understand their responsibilities: Bride

Who pays for their outfit: Bride

How many: 1

Key activities:

  • Sounding board for the Bride’s ideas and remaining supportive throughout the planning process.
  • Help write out invitations, manage RSVPs.
  • Assembling favours and other handmade items.
  • Arrange bridal shop outings for wedding dress shopping (including food and ‘fun’ time).
  • Rounding all the Bridesmaids (including the Bride) up for dress shopping, fittings, etc.
  • The hen party.
  • Ensure Bridesmaids know their duties and what is expected of them.
  • Create an emergency bridal kit (see the bridal emergency kit info sheet for ideas of what to include in yours).
  • Have large/golf umbrellas ready in case they are needed.
  • Stay with the Bride the night before (could put together a sleepover kit).
  • Setting up the reception (the night before if allowed by the venue).
  • Accept delivery of the bouquets and any other flowers ordered and ensure they are all present and correct.
  • Help the Bride get ready.
  • Help the bride with bathroom visits once dressed and any make-up/hair touch ups.
  • Ensure the Bride has something to eat throughout the day and evening.
  • Dance with the Best Man after the Bride and Groom first dance.
  • Clear/take down any decorations from the venue.
  • Store/look after/take to the dry cleaning the Brides dress whilst on honeymoon.

 

Bridesmaid

Chosen by: Bride

Who ensure they understand their responsibilities: Groom

Who pays for their outfit: Bride

How many: Any but check any restrictions in place at your ceremony venue

Key activities:

  • Help write out invitations, manage RSVPs.
  • Assembling favours and other handmade items.
  • Attend bridal shop outings for wedding dress shopping (including food and ‘fun’ time).
  • Setting up the reception (the night before if allowed by the venue).
  • Assisting with the hen party.
  • Help the Bride with bathroom visits once dressed and any make-up/hair touch ups.
  • Ensure the Bride has something to eat throughout the day and evening.
  • Clear/take down any decorations from the venue.
  • Return any hired items on time.
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Best Man

Chosen by: Groom

Who ensure they understand their responsibilities: Groom

Who pays for their outfit: Bride and Groom

How many: 1

Key activities:

  • The stag do.
  • Rounding all the Groomsmen (including the Groom) up for suit shopping, fittings, etc.
  • Check Ushers know what they should be doing on the day.
  • Help the Maid of Honour with anything she needs help with.
  • Picking up any hired items (and help with returning them).
  • Help setup venue(s) for ceremony and reception.
  • Stay with the Groom the night before, ensuring he doesn’t get too drink.
  • Deliver an amazing speech.
  • Take deliver/collect and hand out button holes.
  • Keep the rings safe.
  • Help Ushers round up guests for the formal photographs.
  • Dance with the Maid of Honour after the Bride and Groom first dance.
  • Safely store wedding gifts, cards after the wedding.

 

Usher

Chosen by: Bride and Groom, sometimes with input from the Best Man

Who ensure they understand their responsibilities: Groom

Who pays for their outfit: Bride and Groom

How many: Normally 1 to every 50 guests

Key activities:

  • Assist Best Man with the stag do.
  • Help guests as they arrive.
  • Show parking areas.
  • Point/guide guests to seats.
  • Hand out orders of service.
  • Keeping a list of the suppliers and key peoples contact numbers.
  • Escorting the Mother of the Bride, and Mother of the Groom to their seats.
  • At least one, stands at back during the ceremony to deal with any late comers.
  • Hand out maps to the reception venue (if applicable).
  • Round up guests for formal photographers.
  • Keeping an eye out for anyone too tipsy and be ready with the water or/and black coffee.
  • Have a list of number for local taxi companies.
  • Be familiar with the rules and remind people as needed (for example, if confetti is not allowed, remind guests as they arrive at the church).
  • Return hired suits (for all the Groomsmen) on time.
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Your Wedding, Your Way.

Finally, I’d like to remind you that it is your wedding and you can do what you like. I get asked a lot about traditions from my clients but when it comes to the big day, very few follow them.

It is important to understand what is right for you as a couple. Do you want a traditional white wedding, a relaxed fun-filled party or something in between? There is no right or wrong answer. However, it must reflect you and your personalities and style.

If you fancy having a chat to see if I could help you, just click here and tell me about your journey so far. I love helping people where I can so don’t be afraid to ask! That’s what I’m is here for.

 

Mary Cushen Wedding Planner – Marquee and Dry Hire specialist

Roles and responsibilities is always a tricky subject. What you don’t want to do is become bridezilla or laid back Polly (no offence meant if you are called Polly). You need to find the right mixture based on what you want to do, what you want paid help to do (i.e. suppliers) and where you want your friends and family involved.

These days it’s more acceptable to expect bridesmaids to contribute or pay for their outfit, as long as they have some say in what it will be. Most outfits worn by bridesmaids these days can be worn at other times and therefore asking them to contribute is not so ‘out there’.

If you are planning a marquee or countryside wedding, contact me today to see if your wedding date is available. Every couple is different, so every wedding I do is different. 

 

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