Parenting: Do You Feel Guilty?
As a parent you have to make decisions on a daily basis. Most the time those decisions will be in favour of family but now and again you may put yourself first. With those odd occasions where you are put first, do you feel guilty?
I remember the first time I decided to buy myself a new suit after our girls were born. They were 14 months old. All I could think about is why should I spend money on myself when the girls are growing very quickly, needing new clothes, toys, books, and a lot more. I have suits I could wear so why waste money. In the end, I did buy a suit but I felt guilty for ages afterwards.
As parents, we constantly put others before us. We put our needs to the back and focus on ensuring our family have everything they need. The problem with that is we become exhausted and underwhelmed. Our dreams and aspirations seem to disappear to the distance. The impact this has is the opposite to want you are trying to achieve.
You end up burnt out, fed up and starting to regret your decisions in life.
To become a good parent, it isn’t about giving them all the best things. It’s about being there for them. Being loving and showing them how life isn’t all about money or stuff. Parenting is all about supporting and encouraging. If you don’t look after yourself, you will not be able to support for your family. When you become the person in background, you lose your flame. You become dissatisfied with the life you have and start to resent the choices you made.
I know what this is like. How guilty you feel for wanting more, to be the centre of attention for just a day.
Taking time for you and making sure your aspirations are not left at the door lead to good parenting. The better you feel, the more likely your family will feel great and feed off your positive energy.
So How Can You Look After Yourself?
Having a family does make you feel time is not on your side. However, we all have the same 24 hours a day so how you make the most of your time is what makes the difference.
To give you some ideas and get your brain thinking, here are some ideas that could work for you. Split into the time they take, there should be something for everyone, even if you only have five minutes. Why not pop over and join my Facebook group – Parenting without sacrifices. I’m in there to support you along the journey of life and share more top tips to a healthy, happy life.
Less than 10 minutes:
- Stretches, Yoga, Pilates mini-session
- Read a book
- Listen to your favourite podcast
- Go for a walk
- Stargaze / relax outside
Less than 30 minutes:
- All the above
- Bath with your favourite soaks
- Go for a swim
- Get creative
- Learn a new language
- Go shopping
- Bake a cake
- Write a book
- Watch a movie
- Have a spa treatment
Parenting and Self Care
Feeling guilty is the main reason why us parents don’t look after ourselves. When you look at it from the outside, it makes you wonder about the impression you are giving your children. Are you showing them that being a parent means you sacrifice your dreams and well-being?
Parenting and self care go hand-in-hand. Look after yourself and show your family that life is for living and sharing experiences. Show your children that life is about pursuing your dreams while supporting each other, not that you have to pick one or the other.
Make a promise today. Promise you will look after yourself and prioritise your self care every week without feeling guilty, while being the awesome parent you are.
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One of my favourite parenting quotes:
Let parents bequeath to their children not riches, but the spirit of reverence. Plato